Personalized LinkedIn Request – Are you making this mistake?

Personalized LinkedIn Request – Are you making this mistake?

Are you making the Personalized LinkedIn request mistake? I hope not.

“I’d like to add you to my professional network on LinkedIn.”

It never fails. Not a day goes by when I don’t receive this request from a stranger on LinkedIn. Still the biggest surprise: no personalized requests.

I wrote an article on this very topic just a few short months ago, yet this baffling behavior continues, and I seem powerless to stop it.

Help me out, folks!

Are you making this LinkedIn mistake? I hope not, because:

  • You’re being rude.  First and foremost, it’s just not good manners to use the default LinkedIn request. Many of us don’t appreciate random requests without a personal message. We may even be tempted to hit “Report Spam” or “I Don’t Know This Person” button. If that happens a few times, you could be banned from the site.
  • You’re being lazy.  Not a good first impression to make. It only takes 2-3 minutes to write a personalized message.
  • I forgot who you are.  Though I don’t mean to, I may have forgotten you if we met a long time ago, or we haven’t spoken in a while. Personalize your message with a gentle reminder!
  • I can’t help you if I don’t know who you are. Personalizing your request gives me context. Who knows – I may even help you land your next job!

If you’ve requested a connection with me, you may have been surprised not only by how quickly I replied, but by my personalized message to you. I probably asked you why you wanted to connect. I probably also, very politely, mentioned that you didn’t include a personalized message with your request.

This was my very polite way of telling you to be careful. If you responded – whether you were legitimately sorry, or offered excuses, I’ll remember.

If you didn’t reply, shame on you! Like the thank-you letters your mother (hopefully) encouraged you to write, LinkedIn requests should be personalized and standard.

LinkedIn isn’t Facebook, folks. Let’s not treat it as such.

About The Author


Career Counselor Edythe Richards is a Certified EQ-i 2.0/EQ-i 360 Practitioner, Myers-Briggs® Master Practitioner, Certified My Everything DiSC® Administrator, and Certified Professional Resume Writer (CPRW).

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